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Benefits of the “First Look”

There are 2 moments during the wedding day that are my absolute favorite. The first one is your first look and the second is “just got married” portraits. If you aren’t sure about this tradition, in the next few paragraphs I will explain why one of them, the first look, would be a romantic addition to your wedding day celebration that not only adds to the experience but also… reduces stress.

Also, please, please know that I would never want any of the humans in front of my lens to feel pressured to go with this option. But, since it’s something I genuinely believe in I want to ensure you’ll know all the benefits of a first look.

During my consultations, I usually talk about the timeline and I always encourage the “First Look” because I find them… amazing. Like I cry amazing. But, I think many people get caught up in how non-traditional they are.

I think the biggest piece is the fear that the “first look” will spoil the reaction of the bride walking down the aisle. The awe, the joy, the tears, the “ohmygosh she’s the most beautiful human in the world, can’t believe how lucky I am” reaction. Many brides dream of their partner when they’re walking down the aisle and worry that it just won’t happen if you “spoil” the look, that coming down the aisle won’t be as emotional or intimate. 

But let’s go back to the beginning, I want to share what I learned from the weddings I got to be a part of and paint a picture.

First Look

Everyone knows that wedding days are a bit stressful for the bride and groom. The whole day is focused on them, they need to look their best, they need to be on time, the groom has no idea how to attach the boutonniere or where it’s supposed to go… And with every little detail, the pressure grows.

It’s right before the ceremony – the gravity of what is about to happen sinks in. And the groom who was calm and collected and it was all “fine” is now starting to feel a little anxious.

So what happens next?

The groom waits in a little room somewhere for his cue from the coordinator. It seems like it’s taking forever. Every second feels like an hour has passed and finally, the coordinator comes in and says it’s time and hurries the groom to get ready. 

Then with clammy hands and shaky steps, the groom enters the ceremony and what does he see? A lot of people, looking straight at him. Because everyone has expectations and anticipation about his first reaction. This is the farthest thing from a private, intimate moment. It’s so stressful. And of course –  it’s a magnificent moment and so, so powerful. But it’s nerve-wracking.

From my experience when the nerves start creeping up, instead of keeping the groom in a secluded space until the ceremony, you could consider taking them to a private place… Where there are no people, no crowds, no distractions…. And then their beautiful bride comes in, the love of their life, and quietly call their name. 

They turn around and finally after, what feels like forever, they get to see their partner and embrace her. In this quiet moment, all the feels can spill, the tears, the kisses. It’s one of the truest moments of joy. And I have seen so many of them and yet, each one is so unique. And, what’s best is that you can enjoy that moment with her for as LONG as you want. As she shows him her dress, twirls a few times, and then asks him what he thinks… Nerves start to go away –  After all, this is your favorite person in the world.  

What about walking down the aisle?

It’s still going to be one of the most magical moments of your whole wedding day. But the pressure of 80+ (300+) people won’t feel as overwhelming. And, when the nerves are not playing the first fiddle true emotions can be expressed. There’s room for excitement, for joy.

Let me rephrase what I wrote: even the coolest cucumber out there becomes incredibly nervous on wedding days.

But when you hold space for the first look… When It’s just the two of you (and their photographer – that’s why it’s so important to have a human you really vibe with). This is your time to be together, and to be alone. When does that happen on a wedding day? To be honest, without a First Look…. it doesn’t. Not really.

Now, let me add a tiny disclaimer here before you go. I absolutely do not require my couples to do a first look. I have just had a first-hand experience during many, many weddings and wanted to share how impactful that moment could be. 


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